Tag Archives: trauma

God, Grant Me the Serenity… With Thaddeus Russell [PODCAST #558]

In our most challenging and uncomfortable conversation to date, Thaddeus Russell and I explore some things about my past that I've had trouble accepting and often wonder if I can still change. A lengthy list of topics follows: shame, moralizing, self-sacrifice, relationships as transactions, dishonesty, the war in our heads between the puritan and the hedonist, integrity and personal responsibility. Also: The Next Renegade University and School Sucks Project event is happening May 11-13 in the original renegade city of New Orleans. At the end of this podcast we'll discuss some of the details and the new features. For more information and to secure your spot, go to ThaddeusRussell.com/courses Please Support School Sucks We do cool things! Thanks to your ...

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[PODCAST] #447: The Enemy of My Enemy Is My Friend – A New Analysis of The Breakfast Club

This is my collaboration with Patrick and Ady of The Philosophy Film Club. Our subject of discussion is a film that both defined the teen movie genre and (appropriately) broke its rules. See Brett's Notes For This Production THE CHARACTERS (10:30-46:30) -Our identification with characters in the film -Who were our teachers and how did they get there? -The importance of Vernon and Bender THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH EACH OTHER (46:30-1:02:30) -Social pressures -Stereotypes and barriers -Missed opportunities for meaningful relationships -Sharing pain in a domination system THE IMPACT OF SCHOOL AND HOME ENVIRONMENTS (1:02:30-1:32:45 ) -How John Hughes connects the audience to the attitudes and experience of the characters -Parenting typologies represented in the film (authoritarian, permissive, neglectful) -Authoritative "power-with" ...

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[PODCAST] #445: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem (Part 4) Reparenting and Self-Integration

Wes Bertrand and I discuss facets of healing trauma and activating 7th pillar true-self motivation. This is the fourth part in our rebooted series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: The 1989 film Parenthood is a humorous but touching look across three generations of a family system. The film's protagonist (Gil, played by Steven Martin), despite not having the reparenting/self-integration vocabulary, is determined to learn ...

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[PODCAST] #443: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem – (Part 2) How Self-Knowledge Fosters Self-Education and Individualism

Wes Bertrand and I reboot our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: Collectivism pulls us away from pursuits of self-knowledge, self-assertiveness and self-actualization, away from becoming who we are. The easiest forms of collectivism to carelessly embrace are tribalism and racism. Pseudo-self-esteem is often the result of such embrace. This montage is a 2016 update on Rand's thoughts on racism, Branden's 1971 warnings about ...

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[PODCAST] #441: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem – (Part 1) The Best Year Ever

Wes Bertrand and I reboot our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: In these conversations, we will integrate some of the lessons from our 2015 series on trauma and Internal Family Systems (Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience) with Branden's concept of the disowned self. The 2014 film Birdman provides a fine example. DISCUSSION: - Turning the Six Pillars into habit - An explanation of ...

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[PODCAST] #434: Memory Conditioning – How the Memory System Works…Or How It Doesn’t

#MemoryCondition A brief (and optional in this series) neurology-based discussion of the process of making memories. This includes the development of the understanding of the memory system, retrograde and anterograde amnesia, and trauma's strange effect on memory. The Memory Process In A Nutshell 1. external events occur 2. Stimuli encounters the 5 senses (iconic, echoic) 3. Senses transport data to the working memory - holding area 4. central processor - controls how much attention is given to the contents of the working memory (episodic buffer, visuo-spatial sketchpad, phonological loop) 5. Long-term memory - data stored and potentially available for recall, it can be explicit (episodic or semantic) or implicit (procedural or emotional) Look Closer: McGill University: Memory and Learning The ...

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[PODCAST] #359: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 5 – Elephant In the Room)

With Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: -If there is a Liberty Movement, is it moving? Why not? -NVC and trauma: Rosenberg’s disconnection (and lack of philosophical clarity) -recent ”mind control” and “manipulation” claims -the trauma cycle: shame, dishonesty (with self and others), more shame, inauthenticity, defense and disconnection -how to heal, the 7th Pillar of Self-Esteem 6 PSYCHOLOGICAL WOUNDS (from unmet needs): 1-formation of a false-self (in order to survive) 2-excessive shame 3-excessive guilt 4-excessive fears 5-reality distortion (like denial) 6-problems with trust (trusting too easily and being or not trusting trustworthy people and being isolated) 7-difficulty feeling your emotions; being numb—and/or difficulty bonding with others and tolerating healthy intimacy REQUISITES FOR RECOVERY: -awareness… -knowledge… -recruit inner strength ...

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[PODCAST] #357: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 4 – Acknowledgement, Acceptance, Action)

With Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: Review -This study is a great way to introduce the importance of childhood experiences to our lives. -ACE shows clearly that what happens affects our later years. -Childhood treatment is important to the health of the individual. -Two thirds of us have some ACE but all of us are subject to counterproductive childhood experiences. -What affects us is what was done to us but also what wasn't done. -We need touch, play, nurturing to thrive. -These affect us in a continuum from addiction to smaller irrational behaviors. -ACE is great to show the correlation but there is a whole lot more on the continuum. -ASK because we ACT. -Bias to sickness, abuse ...

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[PODCAST] #356: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 3 – Our Scores, Questions 5-10)

With Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: -Monologue: Avoiding a victim mentality and promoting the Six Pillars of Self-Esteem -We continue going through the ACES questions and scoring ourselves, while discussing our answers and experiences. THE QUESTIONS 5. Did you often or very often feel that ... You didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or Your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it? 6. Were your parents ever separated or divorced? 7. Was your mother or stepmother: Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or Sometimes, often, or ...

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[PODCAST] #355: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 2 – Our Scores, Questions 1-4)

With Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: We begin going through the ACES questions and scoring ourselves, while discussing our answers and experiences. THE QUESTIONS 1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt? No___If Yes, enter 1 __ 2. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or Ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured? No___If Yes, enter 1 __ 3. Did an adult or person at least 5 ...

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[PODCAST] #354: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 1 – Introduction)

With Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: An introductory discussion about breaking the cycle of trauma inheritance. How do we acknowledge childhood trauma? Are we all being effected? What is the ACES? What do the scores mean? Look Closer: Amazon.com Widgets Complete Liberty Inside Out: Honoring Yourself and Others for Optimal Enrichment - http://amzn.to/1B1CdFo Wes: CompleteLiberty.com/ - http://completeliberty.com/ Matt: DeadEasyLife.com - http://deadeasylife.com/ Linking childhood trauma to long-term health and social consequences: What is The ACE Study? - http://www.acestudy.org/ AcesTooHigh.com/ - http://acestoohigh.com/ Happiness Counseling Resources - http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/ CLP Episode 212 - Adverse Childhood Experiences and reflections on therapeutic solutions - http://completeliberty.com/magazine/read/episode-212---adverse-childhood-experiences-and-reflections-on-therapeutic-solutions_299.html The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma - http://www.amazon.com/The-Body-Keeps-Score-Healing/dp/0670785938 Peter Gerlach on ...

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163: Critical Thinking Development and Emotional Intelligence

It's good day for it. Topics: This morning I discovered a new website: www.criticalthinking.org, the homepage of The Critical Thinking Community. There's been a lot of talk on the show lately about the connection between critical thinking and emotional intelligence. And after searching through the site, I discovered the work of an educational psychologist named Linda Elder. I was very intrigued by her paper, Critical Thinking Development: A Stage Theory, so I thought I would turn it into a nice mp3 for you. Woven throughout the theory is a call to understand the roll emotional intelligence plays in effective and rational thinking, so I have also included some audio from an Objectivist writer and lecturer on philosophy named Dr.Diana Hsieh. ...

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