Tag Archives: six pillars

[PODCAST] #457: Define Self-Esteem (With Wes Bertrand and Dr. Michael Edelstein)

Reviving the Branden/Edelstein Self-Esteem Debate: Wes and I are joined by Dr. Michael R. Edelstein, an outspoken long-time critic of the concept of self-esteem and self-esteem movements in psychology. One of our goals for this conversation is to persuade Dr. Edelstein to revise or perhaps even remove criticisms of Nathaniel Branden's work from his otherwise valid critique of the self-esteem movement. Important Background Links: 1) The Trouble With Self-Esteem, by Michael R. Edelstein - http://genteman.org/edelstein.html 2) What Self-Esteem Is and Is Not, by Nathaniel Branden - http://www.nathanielbranden.com/what-self-esteem-is-and-is-not An interesting exchange from a Q&A at the Capitalism and Morality Conference - https://youtu.be/pMHFGfVnZQ0?t=45m10s 3) The Edelstein/Branden Email Exchange 2000-2001 - http://genteman.org/self.esteem.html 4) Q&A From Michael Edelstein's Talk, "Why Ayn Rand's Self Esteem ...

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[BONUS] Self-Esteem Is A Scam? – Wes and Brett Respond

(AUDIO, 97 MINUTES) Wes and I respond to an episode of the Tom Woods Show called "Crushing the Self-Esteem Scam Like A Bug." The episode features Dr. Michael Edelstein, a clinical psychologist and proponent of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy who has been a critic of the "self-esteem movement" for decades. Edelstein also believes that Branden's work contains serious problems because, in Edelstein's view, it encourages people to engage in self-rating. In this discussion we use: -Edelstein's website -audio from Tom Woods Ep. 543 Crushing the Self-Esteem Scam Like a Bug -transcripts from Tom Woods Ep. 543 Crushing the Self-Esteem Scam Like a Bug -an email exchange between Branden and Edelstein from 2001 RECOMMENDED: Check this out first. If the player doesn't ...

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[PODCAST] #445: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem (Part 4) Reparenting and Self-Integration

Wes Bertrand and I discuss facets of healing trauma and activating 7th pillar true-self motivation. This is the fourth part in our rebooted series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: The 1989 film Parenthood is a humorous but touching look across three generations of a family system. The film's protagonist (Gil, played by Steven Martin), despite not having the reparenting/self-integration vocabulary, is determined to learn ...

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[PODCAST] #443: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem – (Part 2) How Self-Knowledge Fosters Self-Education and Individualism

Wes Bertrand and I reboot our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: Collectivism pulls us away from pursuits of self-knowledge, self-assertiveness and self-actualization, away from becoming who we are. The easiest forms of collectivism to carelessly embrace are tribalism and racism. Pseudo-self-esteem is often the result of such embrace. This montage is a 2016 update on Rand's thoughts on racism, Branden's 1971 warnings about ...

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[PODCAST] #441: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem – (Part 1) The Best Year Ever

Wes Bertrand and I reboot our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: In these conversations, we will integrate some of the lessons from our 2015 series on trauma and Internal Family Systems (Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience) with Branden's concept of the disowned self. The 2014 film Birdman provides a fine example. DISCUSSION: - Turning the Six Pillars into habit - An explanation of ...

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[PODCAST] #382: Kids Don’t Need or Want Your Praise (with Kevin Geary)

"The relevant question...isn't "How motivated are my students?" It's "How are my students motivated?" In other words, it's the type of motivation that counts, not the amount. The type created by the use of rewards is not only less effective but also erodes the kind we really want to promote." - Alfie Kohn Kevin Geary returns to discuss why the widely accepted carrots-and-sticks approach to teaching and parenting is harmful to children. The discussion centers around two articles Kevin recently wrote for his site, RevolutionaryParent.com. 1. Kids Don’t Need or Want Your Praise 2. Your Children Don’t Need “Positive Reinforcement” We talk about the costs of this approach through the lens of Nathaniel Branden's Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. We also ...

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[PODCAST] #342: Conformity vs. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (with Jake Desyllas)

Jake Desyllas recently invited me on The Voluntary Life Podcast to discuss conformity. Topics covered include: -How conformity to "normal" spending habits prevents people achieving financial independence -Solomon Asch's conformity experiments and what we can learn from them -How conformity can alter your perception -The importance of allies in resisting conformity -The role of privacy in reducing conformity -The danger of conforming to a subculture (and still being a conformist) -How exposure to different views can increase your independence of thought Look Closer: Jake's Site: The Voluntary Life - http://www.thevoluntarylife.com/ Asch conformity experiments - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asch_conformity_experiments Solomon Asch: Opinions and Social Pressure (1955) - http://www.panarchy.org/asch/social.pressure.1955.html Milgram experiment - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milgram_experiment Neurobiological Correlates of Social Conformity and Independence During Mental Rotation - http://www.darkcoding.net/research/Berns%20Conformity%20final%20printed.pdf ...

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Podcast #266: The Practice of Self – Responsibility (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 3)

Wes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the third pillar, the Practice of Self-Responsibility. Reacting vs. Responding “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” -Viktor E. Frankl -live consciously : within ourselves and observing and identifying WHAT EXISTS our surroundings -self-acceptance : a non-adversarial relationship with reality THE PRACTICE OF SELF-RESPONSIBILITY “I am responsible for my choices and actions. To be ‘responsible’ in this context means responsible not as the recipient of moral blame or guilt, but responsible as the chief causal agent in ...

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