Tag Archives: punished by rewards

169: Carrots and Sticks Roundtable With Mark Edge and Ian Freeman

Topic: Mark Edge and Ian Freeman, the hosts of Free Talk Live, join Osborne, Cory and me for a discussion about punishments and rewards, and peaceful parenting. The primary question driving our conversation: do incentives work? But is that really the right question? This is an edited version the 10-25-12 live show. School Sucks is live on the Liberty Radio Network and UStream Thursdays at 10pm EST. Bumper Music: "Damn Right I Got the Blues" Buddy Guy "Revival" Allman Brothers Look Closer: Free Talk Live http://www.freetalklive.com/ Street Giraffe http://www.wiseheartpdx.org/post/128 An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication http://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdf Punished by Rewards? A Conversation with Alfie Kohn http://www.alfiekohn.org/teaching/pdf/Punished%20by%20Rewards.pdf Parenting from Your Heart, by Inbal Kashtan http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/inbal_kashtan.html 10 Principles of Unconditional Parenting http://rainbowrecognizer.hubpages.com/hub/10-Principles-of-Unconditional-Parenting Secrets of ...

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052: Holes

(Kids Are Not Defective Part 6) Topic: There is a phrase, "hole in the soul," that describes how a person may feel incomplete, unworthy, or dependent on external things. While much of this is probably rooted in family, I believe that school can contribute to one's sense of personal emptiness. This is a long and winding show that covers a valedictorian's brave and moving graduation speech, leading into a discussion of the problems created for all students by the carrots and sticks of school. As Alfie Kohn points out in his book (linked below), even the rewards are a kind of punishment, robbing us of our own purpose and intrinsic motivation. Whether we are the "overachiever" who gets the carrots ...

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