Podcast #290: The Hazards of Disconnection – Two Conversations and An Article (With Darrell Becker, Mark Edge and Ian Freeman)


A very long, winding, rather personal, lightly edited show addressing the dangers of social isolation and interpersonal disconnection. It expands into other topics from there.

Opening Monologue (START-0:06:59)
Free Talk Live warm-up discussion on isolation (0:07:00-0:33:30)
Reading/discussing the articleHow Extreme Isolation Warps the Mind (0:33:30-1:09:45)
Further discussion With Darrell Becker (1:09:45-END)

-Calm through context
-Isolation diminishes our standards for connection
-Positive and negative experiences with psychedelics
-Asocial vs. antisocial
-From cynicism to social isolation
-How romantic relationships can take us away from ourselves
-Darrell investigates the Free Keene conflict and attempts to connect
-Using logical and emotional tools
-When people become abstractions
-The island of the individual
-Illusions of balance in life
-Compliments and their motivations
-Brett's fantasy baseball

Look Closer:
Darrell's Communication Glossary - https://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication-by-darrell-becker/

Darrell's Site: Voluntary Visions - http://voluntaryvisions.com/

Santa Barbara Killer Elliot Rodger's Isolation Strikes a Chord Among 'Nerds' - http://abcnews.go.com/US/santa-barbara-killers-isolation-strikes-chord-nerds/story?id=23900575

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  1. Excellent show again. I’m rarely disappointed. If I could afford it, I’d double my monthly donation.

    I have spent the last twenty years raising my children in a more “communal” type culture here in the Philippines. We’ve never had to deal with our children without help. Actually, we’ve never had to deal with the family life without an intense amount of socialisation. I think that most of my waking life is spent with someone by my side or at worst within a shout.

    This has it effects on how I think. I makes me more aware of how what I say will impact the person in my network of relationships. It doesn’t dissuade me from differing, but recognizing how my difference might adversely impact those around me.

  2. Fantastic podcast! I was listening to it during a nice midnight walk.

  3. Great podcast.
    If any of y’all revisit psychedelics, you would benefit greatly from considering James Fadiman’s “Psychedelic Explorer’s Guide.” It concerns using psychedelics for self-awareness and self-work… sounds like you guys had a mixed bag of meaningful explorations and mindless freak-outs… like most explorers in this paranoid and ignorant drug culture! You could have used some basic and well-tested knowledge from the old guard of psychedelic scientists and shrinks:

  4. Thank you for your eloquent honesty! I can soooo relate to the intense wierdness of your acid story.

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