Wes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today we move into the second part of the book.
"Regardless of what we think we are teaching, we teach what we are."
-everything going on inside me is weird and alien to the rest of the world
-we have this natural desire to be seen, heard, understood
-what would happen if we extended the courtesy we have for adults to children
-Understanding the need or the fear behind scolding?
-When we convey love, appreciation, acceptance, respect and empathy
we make the child visible
-When we convey Indifference, ridicule, condemnation and scorn
drive child into "lonely underground of invisibility"
-evaluative praise vs appreciative praise
-state the facts and leave the evaluation to the child
-Don't create "approval addicts"
-A child needs sanity for healthy development
-parents who can acknowledge that they make mistakes
-embed values into family life, don't just preach them
THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM
1. The Practice of Living Consciously
2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance
3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility
4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness
5. The Practice of Living Purposefully
6. The Practice of Personal Integrity
The Who - "When I Was A Boy"
Weezer - "In the Garage"
Complete Liberty Podcast
An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication
Happiness Counseling Resource Page
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf)
I am reading 6 pillars book. Having you guys going through it again after i’ve read a chapter is really helping me get back in touch with me. When i was a kid and was hurt by adults aka my parents, i would tell myself not to forget this pain. And to be different towards all kids, once i was an adult. Though i’ve never had any of my own kids. My heart bleeds for all kids around the world, across america, right down my street. They have the answers for a more healing, caring and loving world. Something we could all use more of in our lives. Bless you for school sucks and your work as well Wes. Your message of love is the answer. And your podcasts, solutions for each of us by choice in learning how to heal the hate inside my heart, to be able to love, ourselves myself, others and then the world.