Wes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today we move into the second part of the book.
"Regardless of what we think we are teaching, we teach what we are."
-everything going on inside me is weird and alien to the rest of the world
-we have this natural desire to be seen, heard, understood
-what would happen if we extended the courtesy we have for adults to children
-Understanding the need or the fear behind scolding?
-When we convey love, appreciation, acceptance, respect and empathy
we make the child visible
-When we convey Indifference, ridicule, condemnation and scorn
drive child into "lonely underground of invisibility"
-evaluative praise vs appreciative praise
-state the facts and leave the evaluation to the child
-Don't create "approval addicts"
-A child needs sanity for healthy development
-parents who can acknowledge that they make mistakes
-embed values into family life, don't just preach them
THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM
1. The Practice of Living Consciously
2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance
3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility
4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness
5. The Practice of Living Purposefully
6. The Practice of Personal Integrity
The Who - "When I Was A Boy"
Weezer - "In the Garage"
Complete Liberty Podcast
An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf)