Podcast #266: The Practice of Self – Responsibility (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 3)


Wes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the third pillar, the Practice of Self-Responsibility.

Reacting vs. Responding
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” -Viktor E. Frankl

-live consciously : within ourselves and observing and identifying WHAT EXISTS our surroundings
-self-acceptance : a non-adversarial relationship with reality

“I am responsible for my choices and actions. To be ‘responsible’ in this context means responsible not as the recipient of moral blame or guilt, but responsible as the chief causal agent in my life and behavior.”

-for the achievement of my desires
-for choices /actions
-level of consciousness I bring to my work , relationships
-for my behavior with other people
-how I prioritize my time
-for my personal happiness
-choosing the values by which I live

-Gratitudein things that are not external
-how we overcame adversity
-David Ortiz and his doubles
-Honoring our gifts
-Jeopardizing self-esteem byholding myself responsible for things beyond my control or denying it for things within my control

1. The Practice of Living Consciously
2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance
3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility
4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness
5. The Practice of Living Purposefully
6. The Practice of Personal Integrity

Questions to answer in this series:
what is self-esteem?
why is it important?
what can we do to raise self-esteem?
what role do others play in our self-esteem?

The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar:
-identify and define
-what are the obstacles
-personal stories, struggles
-how to overcome them

Bumper Music:
"Gold Dust Woman" Fleetwood Mac
"The Reflex" Duran Duran
"Complicated Shadows" Elvis Costello

Look Closer:
Complete Liberty Podcast - http://completeliberty.com/

NathanielBranden.com - http://www.nathanielbranden.com/

An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication - http://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdf

Happiness Counseling Resource Page - http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf) - http://experiencelife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/70-the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem.pdf

Serenity Prayer - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer

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  1. I’m happy that you were able to overcome your paralyzing fear of making a mistake. You even left a visual as an example in the title. (I know, it’s a typo. Sometimes I overestimate my comedic abilities.) Also, somewhere in there you said something about “solving problems with violence.” I am stealing that for a letter to the editor I am currently working on for my local Pennysaver. I hope that’s okay. Also, thanks for adding the Nathaniel Branden audio at the tail end of the podcast. He is a pleasure to listen to.

  2. Aw darn you fixed the visual aid.

  3. Hey Brett,
    When I was listening to the show on the drive home, I thought of an image/metaphor for the connection between the pillars. I have done a rough up in Photoshop, but I can upload it here?
    Anyway, it’s basically like sonic the hedgehog with the pillars holding up a bridge, pillars 1,2 and 3 hold more of the weight than 4,5 and 6.

  4. Love the episode 007 still shot from Wondershowzen…

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