The Evaluative Word List: A Language of Obligation
Part of the “Know your Jackal” series, Part II
This list of feelings and needs are suggestions only; it’s neither complete nor definitive. It’s just an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. When these words are used to try to express to someone your feelings/emotions they do convey a sense of the emotions/feelings at play, but they also imply that someone is doing something to you and generally carry a message of wrongness or blame. (One interesting feature is that many of these mixed feeling/blame end with ..ed.)
For example, if I say I feel abused you may hear this as you abused me. In contrast, words that express pure feelings can’t readily be heard that way: It’s hard to hear I feel lonely as You lonelied me.
To use this list: when somebody says I’m feeling rejected, a Giraffe might empathically translate this as: Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?