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[PODCAST] #457: Define Self-Esteem (With Wes Bertrand and Dr. Michael Edelstein)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadReviving the Branden/Edelstein Self-Esteem Debate: Wes and I are joined by Dr. Michael R. Edelstein, an outspoken long-time critic of the concept of self-esteem and self-esteem movements in psychology. One of our goals for this conversation is to persuade Dr. Edelstein to revise or perhaps even remove criticisms of Nathaniel Branden's work from his otherwise valid critique of the self-esteem movement. Important Background Links: 1) The Trouble With Self-Esteem, by Michael R. Edelstein - http://genteman.org/edelstein.html 2) What Self-Esteem Is and Is Not, by Nathaniel Branden - http://www.nathanielbranden.com/what-self-esteem-is-and-is-not An interesting exchange from a Q&A at the Capitalism and Morality Conference - https://youtu.be/pMHFGfVnZQ0?t=45m10s 3) The Edelstein/Branden Email Exchange 2000-2001 - http://genteman.org/self.esteem.html 4) Q&A From Michael Edelstein's ...

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[BONUS] Self-Esteem Is A Scam? – Wes and Brett Respond

(AUDIO, 97 MINUTES) Wes and I respond to an episode of the Tom Woods Show called "Crushing the Self-Esteem Scam Like A Bug." The episode features Dr. Michael Edelstein, a clinical psychologist and proponent of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy who has been a critic of the "self-esteem movement" for decades. Edelstein also believes that Branden's work contains serious problems because, in Edelstein's view, it encourages people to engage in self-rating. In this discussion we use: -Edelstein's website -audio from Tom Woods Ep. 543 Crushing the Self-Esteem Scam Like a Bug -transcripts from Tom Woods Ep. 543 Crushing the Self-Esteem Scam Like a Bug -an email exchange between Branden and Edelstein from 2001 RECOMMENDED: Check this out first. If the player doesn't ...

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[PODCAST] #445: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem (Part 4) Reparenting and Self-Integration

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I discuss facets of healing trauma and activating 7th pillar true-self motivation. This is the fourth part in our rebooted series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: The 1989 film Parenthood is a humorous but touching look across three generations of a family system. The film's protagonist (Gil, played by Steven Martin), despite not having the ...

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[PODCAST] #444: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem (Part 3) Obstacles to Motivation – Domination Systems and the Kluge Brain

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I reboot our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: Domination systems scale up. From the home... to the schools... to the military and the police... to the state. DISCUSSION: - The main hurdles: (in embracing and working towards a better concept of self) - Systems of domination (abusive and neglectful parenting, schooling, religion, and government), ...

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[PODCAST] #443: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem – (Part 2) How Self-Knowledge Fosters Self-Education and Individualism

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I reboot our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: Collectivism pulls us away from pursuits of self-knowledge, self-assertiveness and self-actualization, away from becoming who we are. The easiest forms of collectivism to carelessly embrace are tribalism and racism. Pseudo-self-esteem is often the result of such embrace. This montage is a 2016 update on Rand's thoughts ...

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[PODCAST] #441: The Seventh Pillar of Self-Esteem – (Part 1) The Best Year Ever

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I reboot our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: In these conversations, we will integrate some of the lessons from our 2015 series on trauma and Internal Family Systems (Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience) with Branden's concept of the disowned self. The 2014 film Birdman provides a fine example. DISCUSSION: - Turning the Six Pillars ...

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[PODCAST] #382: Kids Don’t Need or Want Your Praise (with Kevin Geary)

Podcast: Play in new window | Download"The relevant question...isn't "How motivated are my students?" It's "How are my students motivated?" In other words, it's the type of motivation that counts, not the amount. The type created by the use of rewards is not only less effective but also erodes the kind we really want to promote." - Alfie Kohn Kevin Geary returns to discuss why the widely accepted carrots-and-sticks approach to teaching and parenting is harmful to children. The discussion centers around two articles Kevin recently wrote for his site, RevolutionaryParent.com. 1. Kids Don’t Need or Want Your Praise 2. Your Children Don’t Need “Positive Reinforcement” We talk about the costs of this approach through the lens of Nathaniel Branden's ...

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[PODCAST] #377: The Shift – A Casual Conversation With Julia Tourianski (2 of 2)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadJuila Tourianski, creator of Brave the World, joins me for a continuation of our previous discussion. Julia's online hub is a YouTube channel with very impressive production values and some extremely confronting content. Born in the USSR and raised in Canada, Julia offers several new and unique approaches to discussing the philosophy of liberty. Her video, "The Shift: The State of Our Minds and the Mind of the State" provides the springboard and loose structure for our pleasantly meandering conversation. Please watch the video before the show if you can: Topics and Tangents: 1. THE INSULT OF EQUALITY -today equality means "all the same" -an entitlement to perpetuate baseless ideas -our only differences are ...

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[PODCAST] #376: The Shift – A Casual Conversation With Julia Tourianski (1 of 2)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadJuila Tourianski, creator of Brave the World, joins School Sucks for the first time. Julia's online hub is a YouTube channel with very impressive production values and some extremely confronting content. Born in the USSR and raised in Canada, Julia offers several new and unique approaches to discussing the philosophy of liberty. Her video, "The Shift: The State of Our Minds and the Mind of the State" provides a springboard for our pleasantly meandering conversation. Please watch the video before the show if you can: Topics and Tangents: -video production -explanation "Brave the World" -Orwell and Huxley -Born in the USSR -rebelling in polite Canadian society -What is the shift that is happening? -Safety ...

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[VIDEO] Adam Kokesh – An Introduction To Emotional Freedom

Adam is in the studio to discuss his personal evolution currently in progress, his book Freedom and the Campfire Freedom tour, self-esteem and letting go of negativity. (Episode #361 Highlight) Would-be bully gets #KOKESHED (nonviolent communication in action): https://youtu.be/fv9u6Eh8wHs Adam's Site: http://thefreedomline.com/ Adam's Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/AdamKokesh Full Show: http://schoolsucksproject.com/podcast-361-adam-kokesh-on-the-road-to-emotional-freedom/

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[PODCAST] #361: Adam Kokesh – On the Road to Emotional Freedom

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadActivist Adam Kokesh returns to discuss his personal evolution currently in progress, his book Freedom and the Campfire Freedom tour, self-esteem, letting go of negativity, youth empowerment through technology, and non-violent communication. Adam's Site: http://thefreedomline.com/ Adam's Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/AdamKokesh

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[PODCAST] #342: Conformity vs. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (with Jake Desyllas)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadJake Desyllas recently invited me on The Voluntary Life Podcast to discuss conformity. Topics covered include: -How conformity to "normal" spending habits prevents people achieving financial independence -Solomon Asch's conformity experiments and what we can learn from them -How conformity can alter your perception -The importance of allies in resisting conformity -The role of privacy in reducing conformity -The danger of conforming to a subculture (and still being a conformist) -How exposure to different views can increase your independence of thought Look Closer: Jake's Site: The Voluntary Life - http://www.thevoluntarylife.com/ Asch conformity experiments - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asch_conformity_experiments Solomon Asch: Opinions and Social Pressure (1955) - http://www.panarchy.org/asch/social.pressure.1955.html Milgram experiment - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milgram_experiment Neurobiological Correlates of Social Conformity and ...

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Podcast #299 (Supplemental): Remember To Be Kind To Yourself…Seriously

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadBrett, Wes Bertrand and Carlos Morales all in the studio together for the first time ever. For a recent episode of Truth Over Comfort Podcast, Carlos invited us to discuss hedonism and libertinism, but the conversation become so much more. Edited by Brett Some Highlights Hedonism Balancing Pleasure and Responsibility Libertarianism and rebellion Stoicism and Epicureanism Rand's unrealistic heroes Meditation Getting Things Done self-destructive behaviors as the result of self-shaming Expressing concern empathetically Making the 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem explicit Hearing the word "should" when it isn't there Keeping people at arms length Spheres of personal influence and control Bumper Music: Andy Grammer - Back Home Look Closer: Wes Bertrands Site: Complete Liberty - ...

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Video: Libertines and Prudes (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Series Highlights #3)

A highlight from School Sucks Podcast #262: The Practice of Self-Acceptance (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 2) Full Show Here Notes: This a podcast series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Episode #260 includes an introductory discussion and also covers the Practice of Living Consciously. Complete Liberty: http://completeliberty.com/ NathanielBranden: http://www.nathanielbranden.com/ Related PostsVideo: I'll Be Happy When... (Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Series Highlights #1)85A highlight from School Sucks Podcast #260: The Practice of Living Consciously (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 1) Why do we defer happiness? And where did we learn to do it? Notes: This a podcast series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Episode #260 includes an…Tags: self-esteem, pillars, living, consciously, ...

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Video: Living Consciously (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Series Highlights #2)

A highlight from School Sucks Podcast #260: The Practice of Living Consciously (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 1) The first pillar of self-esteem is living consciously. Full Show Here Notes: This a podcast series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Episode #260 includes an introductory discussion and also covers the Practice of Living Consciously. Complete Liberty: http://completeliberty.com/ NathanielBranden: http://www.nathanielbranden.com/

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Video: I’ll Be Happy When… (Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Series Highlights #1)

A highlight from School Sucks Podcast #260: The Practice of Living Consciously (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 1) Why do we defer happiness? And where did we learn to do it? Notes: This a podcast series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Episode #260 includes an introductory discussion and also covers the Practice of Living Consciously. Complete Liberty: http://completeliberty.com/ NathanielBranden: http://www.nathanielbranden.com/ Related PostsVideo: Libertines and Prudes (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Series Highlights #3)85A highlight from School Sucks Podcast #262: The Practice of Self-Acceptance (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 2) Full Show Here Notes: This a podcast series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Episode #260 includes an introductory discussion and also ...

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Podcast #282: Self-Esteem In the Schools (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 8)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today we continue to move through the second part of the book. "Regardless of what we think we are teaching, we teach what we are." Discussed: -Branden: "For many children, school represents a second chance." says a lot about the home -There are so many great and caring teachers I had my first when I was in college -We are repeated sold this idea of the power of a good teacher and we chase it -the destructive leverage of the power-over system) -the impact of even one bad teacher can "extinguish the fire" -teachers' embrace of self esteem ...

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Podcast #276: Nurturing A Child’s Self-Esteem (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 7)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today we move into the second part of the book. "Regardless of what we think we are teaching, we teach what we are." Discussed: -everything going on inside me is weird and alien to the rest of the world -we have this natural desire to be seen, heard, understood -what would happen if we extended the courtesy we have for adults to children -Understanding the need or the fear behind scolding? -When we convey love, appreciation, acceptance, respect and empathy we make the child visible -When we convey Indifference, ridicule, condemnation and scorn drive child into "lonely underground ...

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Podcast #273: The Practice of Living With Integrity (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 6)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the sixth pillar, the Practice of Living With Integrity. Do your ideals, convictions, standards, beliefs and behavior line up? Do most people know what their ideals, convictions, standards and beliefs are? The root of self-esteem is not in accomplishment or output, but in our practices. However in school, we are only our output. WORDS AND BEHAVIORS MATCH “Integrity is the integration of ideals, convictions, standards, beliefs—and behavior. When our behavior is congruent with our professed values, when ideals and practice match, we have integrity. If they don't, we lose face in ...

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Podcast #271: The Practice of Living Purposefully (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 5)

Podcast: Play in new window | Download Podcast (presenceandproductivity): Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the fifth pillar, the Practice of Living Purposefully. THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM 1. The Practice of Living Consciously 2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance 3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility 4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness 5. The Practice of Living Purposefully 6. The Practice of Personal Integrity Questions to answer in this series: what is self-esteem? why is it important? what can we do to raise self-esteem? what role do others play in our self-esteem? The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar: ...

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Podcast #268: The Practice of Self-Assertiveness (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 4)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the fourth pillar, the Practice of Self-Assertiveness. LIVING CONSCIOUSLY and asking in every applicable situation: Am I being authentic or not? Assertion of consciousness, see, think, be aware, outward and inward -ask questions -challenge authority -think for oneself SELF-ASSERTIVENESS isn't tested by what we are against, but by what we are for COMMITMENT: to my right to exist CONVICTION: my ideas and wants are important CONCLUSION: no one is coming, we are all responsible for our own existences all relate to COURAGE: When we were young: we were taught that what ...

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Podcast #266: The Practice of Self – Responsibility (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 3)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the third pillar, the Practice of Self-Responsibility. Reacting vs. Responding “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” -Viktor E. Frankl -live consciously : within ourselves and observing and identifying WHAT EXISTS our surroundings -self-acceptance : a non-adversarial relationship with reality THE PRACTICE OF SELF-RESPONSIBILITY “I am responsible for my choices and actions. To be ‘responsible’ in this context means responsible not as the recipient of moral blame or guilt, but responsible ...

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Podcast #262: The Practice of Self-Acceptance (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 2)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the second pillar, the Practice of Self-Acceptance. THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM 1. The Practice of Living Consciously 2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance 3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility 4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness 5. The Practice of Living Purposefully 6. The Practice of Personal Integrity Questions to answer in this series: what is self-esteem? why is it important? what can we do to raise self-esteem? what role do others play in our self-esteem? The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar: -identify and define -what are the obstacles -personal stories, ...

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Podcast #260: The Practice of Living Consciously (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 1)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I begin a series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes an introductory discussion and also covers the Practice of Living Consciously. THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM 1. The Practice of Living Consciously 2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance 3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility 4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness 5. The Practice of Living Purposefully 6. The Practice of Personal Integrity Questions to answer in this series: what is self-esteem? why is it important? what can we do to raise self-esteem? what role do others play in our self-esteem? The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar: -identify and define -what are the obstacles -personal stories, ...

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223 (Live Show): Mediocrity Prizes, Endless Internships and Self-Esteem

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadRecorded live 5-23-13 with Osborne, Cory and various participants in the chat Topic: Our discussion grows out of an article called America is raising a generation of interns. We spend the live portion of the podcast reading the piece and discussing our issues with the writer's message. While we recognized that there are some formidable challenges for young people in today's economy, we were also very critical of entitlement mentality of many of these interns and their advocates. Brett's Introduction: (START - 5:01) schoolsucksproject.com - http://schoolsucksproject.com/ Submit Content to the School Sucks front page - http://schoolsucksproject.com/community/links/create/ Live Portion: (6:31 - 49:05) The Week: America is raising a generation of interns - http://theweek.com/article/index/242065/america-is-raising-a-generation-of-interns Non-Live Addition: ...

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