Tag Archives: nonviolent communication

Podcast #290: The Hazards of Disconnection – Two Conversations and An Article (With Darrell Becker, Mark Edge and Ian Freeman)

A very long, winding, rather personal, lightly edited show addressing the dangers of social isolation and interpersonal disconnection. It expands into other topics from there. Outline: Opening Monologue (START-0:06:59) Free Talk Live warm-up discussion on isolation (0:07:00-0:33:30) Reading/discussing the articleHow Extreme Isolation Warps the Mind (0:33:30-1:09:45) Further discussion With Darrell Becker (1:09:45-END) Discussion: -Calm through context -Isolation diminishes our standards for connection -Positive and negative experiences with psychedelics -Asocial vs. antisocial -From cynicism to social isolation -How romantic relationships can take us away from ourselves -Darrell investigates the Free Keene conflict and attempts to connect -Gratitude -Using logical and emotional tools -When people become abstractions -The island of the individual -Illusions of balance in life -Compliments and their motivations -Brett's ...

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Podcast #257 (Supplemental): Better Communication With Ed and Ethan

My recent discussion with Ed and Ethan about NVC and a few other subjects. Check out their show here. From EdandEthan.com: Brett Veinotte, host of the School Sucks Podcast, joins us to talk about the history of the school system. Stick around after the extro music for an extended conversation on non-violent communication and Ethan’s affinity for more abrasive forms of communicating. Look Closer: The Trivium Applied to Communication - http://schoolsucksproject.com/category/podcast/the-trivium-applied-to-communication/

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Podcast #253: The Trivium Method Applied – Voluntary Communication (Part 4 of 4, Advanced Strategies and Review)

Part Four: Advanced Strategies and Review What are the results of knowing and using the skills of the Trivium Method of critical thinking in conjunction with the skills of using Voluntary Communication, also known as Non-Violent Communication (or NVC)? This show concludes a series about Merging the Trivium Method with Voluntary Communication or NVC, and developing strategies for better interpersonal connections. Darrell Becker will be co-hosting all episodes in this series. Discussed Today: (Darrell's Notes) Statements and Phrases to Help Generate Connection Here's a strategy for designing greater empathetic and intellectual effectiveness (as defined above) in one's own life: Internal Intellectual Equilibrium & Internal Empathetic Equilibrium is desired, designed, engineered and created. “Splinters of the Mind” are self-identified and removed. ...

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Podcast #252: The Trivium Method Applied – Voluntary Communication (Part 3 of 4, Helpful Metaphors and Methods)

Part Three: Helpful Metaphors and Methods What are the results of knowing and using the skills of the Trivium Method of critical thinking in conjunction with the skills of using Voluntary Communication, also known as Non-Violent Communication (or NVC)? This show continues a series about Merging the Trivium Method with Voluntary Communication, and developing strategies for better interpersonal connections. Darrell Becker will be co-hosting all episodes in this series. Discussed Today: (Darrell's Notes) Relevant Metaphors: 1. Splinters in the Mind: Mental Splinters are composed of the dependence and exclusive use of the informal logical fallacies as methods of making important decisions. Emotional Splinters are composed of emotional “wounds” or emotions that indicate values and desires that are not adequately being ...

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Podcast #248: The Trivium Method Applied – Voluntary Communication (Part 2 of 4, Process)

Part Two: Process What are the results of knowing and using the skills of the Trivium Method of critical thinking in conjunction with the skills of using Voluntary Communication, also known as Non-Violent Communication (or NVC)? This show continues a series about Merging the Trivium Method with Voluntary Communication, and developing strategies for better interpersonal connections. Darrell Becker will be co-hosting all episodes in this series. Discussed Today: -The who, what, where and when of NVC -One of the whys - anxiety reduction -how the NVC process connects to the Trivium method -Observation, discussed in detail -Feelings, discussed in detail -Needs, Motivating Factors, discussed in detail -Requests, discussed in detail -"The worst sentence in the world" - Disconnected Communication -Demands ...

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Podcast #247: The Trivium Method Applied – Voluntary Communication (Part 1 of 4, Purpose and Definitions)

Part One: Purposes and Definitions What are the results of knowing and using the skills of the Trivium Method of critical thinking in conjunction with the skills of using Voluntary Communication, also known as Non-Violent Communication (or NVC)? This show begins a series about Merging the Trivium Method with Voluntary Communication, and developing strategies for better interpersonal connections. Darrell Becker will be co-hosting all episodes in this series. Darrell's Purposes For This Pursuit 1. The first purpose was so that an individual may possess an explicit (meaning explainable to one's self and others in a simple and straightforward way) method to find and gently remove one's own sources of “cognitive dissonance”, which were labeled with the metaphor of “splinters in ...

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237: If You Send Your Kid to Private School…You’re A Bad Person???

From the After School Sucks Special (8-29-13) Tony Myers and I discuss the Slate article, If You Send Your Kid to Private School, You Are a Bad Person (A manifesto), by Allison Benedikt It Begins... "You are a bad person if you send your children to private school. Not bad like murderer bad—but bad like ruining-one-of-our-nation’s-most-essential-institutions-in-order-to-get-what’s-best-for-your-kid bad. So, pretty bad. I am not an education policy wonk: I’m just judgmental. But it seems to me that if every single parent sent every single child to public school, public schools would improve. This would not happen immediately. It could take generations. Your children and grandchildren might get mediocre educations in the meantime, but it will be worth it, for the eventual ...

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222 (Supplemental): Brett On The Renegade Variety Hour

My recent conversation with Carlos and Tayrn of The Renegade Variety Hour. We discuss Alex Jones, mainstream media, the distracting qualities of the online experience, strategies for better attention and focus, the myth of multi-tasking, Nonviolent Communication and much more. Look Closer: Renegade Variety Hour - http://therenegadevarietyhour.tumblr.com/ $6.00/Month - Join the A/V Club and Receive Bonus Content We need 250 monthly subscribers! If you listen to the show and enjoy the videos, please consider making a commitment of $6.00 per month, or about $.20 per day. You get access to a bonus content section that is updated weekly. Please sign up right here.

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219 (Live Show): Reaching Out To A Mentally Ill Childhood Friend

Or at least the story of how I tried... Topics: -How would mental illness be addressed in a voluntary society? -How is it being addressed today? -Condominium collectivism and authoritarianism -SSRIs and depression -positive social media campaigns -FBI terror setups This is an edited version the 4-4-13 live show. School Sucks is live on UStream Thursdays at 6:30pm EST. Co-Hosts: Cory Look Closer: The Appeal To Authority (Defined) http://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/appeal-to-authority Terrorist Plots, Hatched by the F.B.I. - http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/29/opinion/sunday/terrorist-plots-helped-along-by-the-fbi.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0 Rich Paul is facing 81 years rather than become an FBI informant - http://www.examiner.com/article/rich-paul-is-facing-81-years-rather-than-become-an-fbi-informant

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204: Brett Guest-Hosts the Freedomain Radio Sunday Call-In Show

I host the Freedomain Radio Sunday Call-In Show in the place of Stefan Molyneux. Thank you to Stef, Michael and James. This show is unedited and was recorded live on 3-24-13. Set List: -Is Liberty a Movement? -Liberty is personal -Being a hater is easy... -My transformation -Appealing to emotion -Stef's view of the family -Sudbury School -Democracy and negotiation -Could any kind of school be beneficial? -Costs of keeping up with the Joneses -Bullying people with the truth -Nonviolent communication -Being a hater is easy...(reprise) -Living consciously -Unschooling is not unparenting -cost-prohibitive educational alternatives -Push marketing -Connecting with peers -Twelve-Step programs -The Secret -College advice -The A/V Club Look Closer: Freedomain Radio - http://www.freedomainradio.com/ Breaking Free by Nathaniel Branden ...

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203: Logic Saves Lives Part 10 – The Elephant and the Rider

Picture: The alternative name and nutritional value of most online, cable news, political and religious debates. Logic is about understanding reality in a non-contradictory way and how can we see things for what they are. Metaphysical Laws 1.Identity 2.Causality 3.Non-Contradiction Topic: A conversation about balancing a knowledge of logic with emotional intelligence and effective communication strategies. It originates from a forum post in the Logic Saves Lives Group called "Using logical fallacies as a form of bullying." We watch and discuss this video: Authenticity: (how NVC becomes natural) Do you want to want to have a meaningful connection with the person? What are your intentions? NVC is not a script; it's a language that you speak to yourself first. If ...

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Bonus Show: Kevin Smith’s Red State, Nonviolent Communication and Rand Paul (MP3)

(A/V CLUB)Recorded Live on March 7th, 2013 This show meanders very nicely! But probably a little too much to become a podcast. Really enjoyed this conversation. We discuss the complexity of Kevin Smith's movie, Red State, which eventually leads to talk about Rand Paul's filibuster, nonviolent communication and the trivium. Related PostsBonus Show: Kevin Smith's Red State, Nonviolent Communication and Rand Paul (Video)91(A/V CLUB)Recorded Live on March 7th, 2013 This show meanders very nicely! But probably a little too much to become a podcast. Really enjoyed this conversation. We discuss the complexity of Kevin Smith's movie, Red State, which eventually leads to talk about Rand Paul's filibuster, nonviolent communication and the trivium.Tags: communication, rand, state, nonviolent, red, smith's, kevin, eventually, ...

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Bonus Show: Kevin Smith’s Red State, Nonviolent Communication and Rand Paul (Video)

(A/V CLUB)Recorded Live on March 7th, 2013 This show meanders very nicely! But probably a little too much to become a podcast. Really enjoyed this conversation. We discuss the complexity of Kevin Smith's movie, Red State, which eventually leads to talk about Rand Paul's filibuster, nonviolent communication and the trivium. Related PostsBonus Show: Kevin Smith's Red State, Nonviolent Communication and Rand Paul (MP3)91(A/V CLUB)Recorded Live on March 7th, 2013 This show meanders very nicely! But probably a little too much to become a podcast. Really enjoyed this conversation. We discuss the complexity of Kevin Smith's movie, Red State, which eventually leads to talk about Rand Paul's filibuster, nonviolent communication and the trivium.Tags: communication, rand, state, nonviolent, red, smith's, kevin, eventually, ...

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195: Adam Kokesh – Optimism In the Belly of the Beast

(Audio to a video) After my last two guests, both high school students (my target audience), credited Adam Kokesh as an influence, I wanted to extend an invitation to him. He joins us to discuss a variety of topics, including his often provocative interviews and demonstrations on the very mean streets of Washington DC. Despite his surroundings, Adam remains an enthusiastic optimist. I wanted to hear why, and we continue on to his bright vision of the future. Adam's site: adamvstheman.com

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180: Kids Hear Tones Through Megaphones

Presence vs. Urgency Topic: A listener named Tim calls in to discuss his remorse about raising his voice with his young children. This is a segment from the 12-6-12 After School Sucks Special, with an additional non-live monologue. School Sucks is live on the Liberty Radio Network and UStream Thursdays at 10pm EST. Look Closer: Stephanie Mattei of the Consciously Parenting Project interviews Jorge to discuss parenting with an NVC approach http://www.vivenciawork.com/media.html $6.00/Month - Join the A/V Club and Receive Bonus Content We need 150 monthly subscribers! If you listen to the show and enjoy the videos, please consider making a commitment of $6.00 per month, or about $.20 per day. When we launch the new site, you'll have access ...

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177: Proactive, Authentic, Cooperative Conflict Resolution (vs. Lose-Lose Parenting)

Lose-Lose Parenting: Tough Love, "Last Resorts" and Public Shaming A stream of consciousness show, in response to a story about the Florida parents who publicly shamed their 15-year-old daughter as a "last resort" act of "tough love." “We’re losing a lot of kids and a lot of teachers because we still view challenging kids the wrong way and handle them in ways that don’t address their true difficulties. It's an exercise in frustration for everyone involved, and it’s time to get off the treadmill.” Ross Greene, Lost At School Picture(Clockwise from top-left): 1. 17th century Puritan New England 2. 19th century American South 3. Communist China 4. Florida, 2012 Look Closer: Parents Shame Daughter for Sneaking Boys In, Make Her ...

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174: Individual Identity In A Collectivist World (Brett On The Freedom Experiment)

My recent discussion with Rodney Smith from The Freedom Experiment Podcast. Topics: -Collectivism in the African-America community -The myths of the Great Society -Obama -The forfeiting of individual identity -Coming to terms to be spanked and being a spanker -Nonviolent Communication -The problems in college athletics -Lessons of baseball Look Closer: The Freedom Experiment Podcast http://therodneysmith.podomatic.com/

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169: Carrots and Sticks Roundtable With Mark Edge and Ian Freeman

Topic: Mark Edge and Ian Freeman, the hosts of Free Talk Live, join Osborne, Cory and me for a discussion about punishments and rewards, and peaceful parenting. The primary question driving our conversation: do incentives work? But is that really the right question? This is an edited version the 10-25-12 live show. School Sucks is live on the Liberty Radio Network and UStream Thursdays at 10pm EST. Bumper Music: "Damn Right I Got the Blues" Buddy Guy "Revival" Allman Brothers Look Closer: Free Talk Live http://www.freetalklive.com/ Street Giraffe http://www.wiseheartpdx.org/post/128 An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication http://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdf Punished by Rewards? A Conversation with Alfie Kohn http://www.alfiekohn.org/teaching/pdf/Punished%20by%20Rewards.pdf Parenting from Your Heart, by Inbal Kashtan http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/inbal_kashtan.html 10 Principles of Unconditional Parenting http://rainbowrecognizer.hubpages.com/hub/10-Principles-of-Unconditional-Parenting Secrets of ...

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Full Video – 169: Carrots and Sticks Roundtable With Mark Edge and Ian Freeman

Topic: Mark Edge and Ian Freeman, the hosts of Free Talk Live, join Osborne, Cory and me for a discussion about punishments and rewards, and peaceful parenting. The primary question driving our conversation: do incentives work? But is that really the right question? Look Closer: Free Talk Live http://www.freetalklive.com/ Street Giraffe http://www.wiseheartpdx.org/post/128 An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication http://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdf Punished by Rewards? A Conversation with Alfie Kohn http://www.alfiekohn.org/teaching/pdf/Punished%20by%20Rewards.pdf Parenting from Your Heart, by Inbal Kashtan http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/inbal_kashtan.html 10 Principles of Unconditional Parenting http://rainbowrecognizer.hubpages.com/hub/10-Principles-of-Unconditional-Parenting Secrets of Happy Parents Radio Show MP3: Unconditional Parenting with Alfie Kohn, author of Unconditional Parenting http://www.ahaparenting.com/radio-shows/unconditional-parenting The Argument From Morality...Or, how we will win, by Stefan Molyneux http://www.lewrockwell.com/orig6/molyneux7.html A Brief History of Ethics (Part 1) - Freedomain Radio ...

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168: Breaking Free

Topic: Wes Bertrand joins me to discuss Nathaniel Branden's book, Breaking Free. Wes is currently doing on series on this book on Complete Liberty Podcast. "Do you believe you're worthless? Ineffectual? Mediocre? Helpless? Nathaniel Branden, best selling author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem introduces a revolutionary method to show you how repressed feelings and forgotten past experiences may have shaped your current sense of self. Breaking Free introduces 22 key questions designed to break down repressive barriers. Questions such as: Were you taught to be an independent thinker, or encouraged to be obedient? Were you free to express your fears openly, without fear of punishment? Did your parents' behavior towards you make you feel guilty? Were you taught to ...

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Full Video – 168: Breaking Free

Topic: Wes Bertrand joins me to discuss Nathaniel Branden's book, Breaking Free. Wes is currently doing on series on this book on Complete Liberty Podcast. "Do you believe you're worthless? Ineffectual? Mediocre? Helpless? Nathaniel Branden, best selling author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem introduces a revolutionary method to show you how repressed feelings and forgotten past experiences may have shaped your current sense of self. Breaking Free introduces 22 key questions designed to break down repressive barriers. Questions such as: Were you taught to be an independent thinker, or encouraged to be obedient? Were you free to express your fears openly, without fear of punishment? Did your parents' behavior towards you make you feel guilty? Were you taught to ...

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