Tag Archives: childhood

[SUPPLEMENTAL] #502: Brett On Unregistered With Thaddeus Russell

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadThaddeus Russell has appeared on School Sucks over 20 times, but this conversation is unlike anything you've heard before. It was recorded at Thad's house in Salem, Oregon on July 5th, just hours after I got off a plane. And you know we're doing an event together in three weeks right? A Weekend With Thaddeus Russell begins August 5th in Salem, MA. To see the schedule, topics and ticket options click HERE, or go to thaddeusrussell.com/courses Discussed: School and drinking stories. Please Support School Sucks Our Amazon Wish List Donate With Bitcoin Or Join the A/V Club Support Us On Patreon Shop With Us At Amazon Your continued support keeps the show going and ...

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[PODCAST] #359: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 5 – Elephant In the Room)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWith Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: -If there is a Liberty Movement, is it moving? Why not? -NVC and trauma: Rosenberg’s disconnection (and lack of philosophical clarity) -recent ”mind control” and “manipulation” claims -the trauma cycle: shame, dishonesty (with self and others), more shame, inauthenticity, defense and disconnection -how to heal, the 7th Pillar of Self-Esteem 6 PSYCHOLOGICAL WOUNDS (from unmet needs): 1-formation of a false-self (in order to survive) 2-excessive shame 3-excessive guilt 4-excessive fears 5-reality distortion (like denial) 6-problems with trust (trusting too easily and being or not trusting trustworthy people and being isolated) 7-difficulty feeling your emotions; being numb—and/or difficulty bonding with others and tolerating healthy intimacy REQUISITES FOR ...

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[PODCAST] #357: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 4 – Acknowledgement, Acceptance, Action)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWith Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: Review -This study is a great way to introduce the importance of childhood experiences to our lives. -ACE shows clearly that what happens affects our later years. -Childhood treatment is important to the health of the individual. -Two thirds of us have some ACE but all of us are subject to counterproductive childhood experiences. -What affects us is what was done to us but also what wasn't done. -We need touch, play, nurturing to thrive. -These affect us in a continuum from addiction to smaller irrational behaviors. -ACE is great to show the correlation but there is a whole lot more on the continuum. -ASK because ...

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[PODCAST] #356: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 3 – Our Scores, Questions 5-10)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWith Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: -Monologue: Avoiding a victim mentality and promoting the Six Pillars of Self-Esteem -We continue going through the ACES questions and scoring ourselves, while discussing our answers and experiences. THE QUESTIONS 5. Did you often or very often feel that ... You didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or Your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it? 6. Were your parents ever separated or divorced? 7. Was your mother or stepmother: Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown ...

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[PODCAST] #355: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 2 – Our Scores, Questions 1-4)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWith Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: We begin going through the ACES questions and scoring ourselves, while discussing our answers and experiences. THE QUESTIONS 1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt? No___If Yes, enter 1 __ 2. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or Ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured? No___If Yes, enter 1 __ 3. Did an ...

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[PODCAST] #354: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 1 – Introduction)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWith Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: An introductory discussion about breaking the cycle of trauma inheritance. How do we acknowledge childhood trauma? Are we all being effected? What is the ACES? What do the scores mean? Look Closer: Amazon.com Widgets Complete Liberty Inside Out: Honoring Yourself and Others for Optimal Enrichment - http://amzn.to/1B1CdFo Wes: CompleteLiberty.com/ - http://completeliberty.com/ Matt: DeadEasyLife.com - http://deadeasylife.com/ Linking childhood trauma to long-term health and social consequences: What is The ACE Study? - http://www.acestudy.org/ AcesTooHigh.com/ - http://acestoohigh.com/ Happiness Counseling Resources - http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/ CLP Episode 212 - Adverse Childhood Experiences and reflections on therapeutic solutions - http://completeliberty.com/magazine/read/episode-212---adverse-childhood-experiences-and-reflections-on-therapeutic-solutions_299.html The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of ...

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Podcast #299 (Supplemental): Remember To Be Kind To Yourself…Seriously

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadBrett, Wes Bertrand and Carlos Morales all in the studio together for the first time ever. For a recent episode of Truth Over Comfort Podcast, Carlos invited us to discuss hedonism and libertinism, but the conversation become so much more. Edited by Brett Some Highlights Hedonism Balancing Pleasure and Responsibility Libertarianism and rebellion Stoicism and Epicureanism Rand's unrealistic heroes Meditation Getting Things Done self-destructive behaviors as the result of self-shaming Expressing concern empathetically Making the 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem explicit Hearing the word "should" when it isn't there Keeping people at arms length Spheres of personal influence and control Bumper Music: Andy Grammer - Back Home Look Closer: Wes Bertrands Site: Complete Liberty - ...

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Podcast #282: Self-Esteem In the Schools (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 8)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today we continue to move through the second part of the book. "Regardless of what we think we are teaching, we teach what we are." Discussed: -Branden: "For many children, school represents a second chance." says a lot about the home -There are so many great and caring teachers I had my first when I was in college -We are repeated sold this idea of the power of a good teacher and we chase it -the destructive leverage of the power-over system) -the impact of even one bad teacher can "extinguish the fire" -teachers' embrace of self esteem ...

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Podcast #276: Nurturing A Child’s Self-Esteem (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 7)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today we move into the second part of the book. "Regardless of what we think we are teaching, we teach what we are." Discussed: -everything going on inside me is weird and alien to the rest of the world -we have this natural desire to be seen, heard, understood -what would happen if we extended the courtesy we have for adults to children -Understanding the need or the fear behind scolding? -When we convey love, appreciation, acceptance, respect and empathy we make the child visible -When we convey Indifference, ridicule, condemnation and scorn drive child into "lonely underground ...

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Podcast #273: The Practice of Living With Integrity (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 6)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the sixth pillar, the Practice of Living With Integrity. Do your ideals, convictions, standards, beliefs and behavior line up? Do most people know what their ideals, convictions, standards and beliefs are? The root of self-esteem is not in accomplishment or output, but in our practices. However in school, we are only our output. WORDS AND BEHAVIORS MATCH “Integrity is the integration of ideals, convictions, standards, beliefs—and behavior. When our behavior is congruent with our professed values, when ideals and practice match, we have integrity. If they don't, we lose face in ...

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Podcast #271: The Practice of Living Purposefully (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 5)

Podcast: Play in new window | Download Podcast (presenceandproductivity): Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the fifth pillar, the Practice of Living Purposefully. THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM 1. The Practice of Living Consciously 2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance 3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility 4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness 5. The Practice of Living Purposefully 6. The Practice of Personal Integrity Questions to answer in this series: what is self-esteem? why is it important? what can we do to raise self-esteem? what role do others play in our self-esteem? The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar: ...

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Podcast #268: The Practice of Self-Assertiveness (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 4)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the fourth pillar, the Practice of Self-Assertiveness. LIVING CONSCIOUSLY and asking in every applicable situation: Am I being authentic or not? Assertion of consciousness, see, think, be aware, outward and inward -ask questions -challenge authority -think for oneself SELF-ASSERTIVENESS isn't tested by what we are against, but by what we are for COMMITMENT: to my right to exist CONVICTION: my ideas and wants are important CONCLUSION: no one is coming, we are all responsible for our own existences all relate to COURAGE: When we were young: we were taught that what ...

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Podcast #262: The Practice of Self-Acceptance (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 2)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the second pillar, the Practice of Self-Acceptance. THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM 1. The Practice of Living Consciously 2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance 3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility 4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness 5. The Practice of Living Purposefully 6. The Practice of Personal Integrity Questions to answer in this series: what is self-esteem? why is it important? what can we do to raise self-esteem? what role do others play in our self-esteem? The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar: -identify and define -what are the obstacles -personal stories, ...

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Podcast #260: The Practice of Living Consciously (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 1)

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWes Bertrand and I begin a series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes an introductory discussion and also covers the Practice of Living Consciously. THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM 1. The Practice of Living Consciously 2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance 3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility 4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness 5. The Practice of Living Purposefully 6. The Practice of Personal Integrity Questions to answer in this series: what is self-esteem? why is it important? what can we do to raise self-esteem? what role do others play in our self-esteem? The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar: -identify and define -what are the obstacles -personal stories, ...

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204: Brett Guest-Hosts the Freedomain Radio Sunday Call-In Show

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadI host the Freedomain Radio Sunday Call-In Show in the place of Stefan Molyneux. Thank you to Stef, Michael and James. This show is unedited and was recorded live on 3-24-13. Set List: -Is Liberty a Movement? -Liberty is personal -Being a hater is easy... -My transformation -Appealing to emotion -Stef's view of the family -Sudbury School -Democracy and negotiation -Could any kind of school be beneficial? -Costs of keeping up with the Joneses -Bullying people with the truth -Nonviolent communication -Being a hater is easy...(reprise) -Living consciously -Unschooling is not unparenting -cost-prohibitive educational alternatives -Push marketing -Connecting with peers -Twelve-Step programs -The Secret -College advice -The A/V Club Look Closer: Freedomain Radio - ...

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168: Breaking Free

Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadTopic: Wes Bertrand joins me to discuss Nathaniel Branden's book, Breaking Free. Wes is currently doing on series on this book on Complete Liberty Podcast. "Do you believe you're worthless? Ineffectual? Mediocre? Helpless? Nathaniel Branden, best selling author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem introduces a revolutionary method to show you how repressed feelings and forgotten past experiences may have shaped your current sense of self. Breaking Free introduces 22 key questions designed to break down repressive barriers. Questions such as: Were you taught to be an independent thinker, or encouraged to be obedient? Were you free to express your fears openly, without fear of punishment? Did your parents' behavior towards you make you ...

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Full Video – 168: Breaking Free

Topic: Wes Bertrand joins me to discuss Nathaniel Branden's book, Breaking Free. Wes is currently doing on series on this book on Complete Liberty Podcast. "Do you believe you're worthless? Ineffectual? Mediocre? Helpless? Nathaniel Branden, best selling author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem introduces a revolutionary method to show you how repressed feelings and forgotten past experiences may have shaped your current sense of self. Breaking Free introduces 22 key questions designed to break down repressive barriers. Questions such as: Were you taught to be an independent thinker, or encouraged to be obedient? Were you free to express your fears openly, without fear of punishment? Did your parents' behavior towards you make you feel guilty? Were you taught to ...

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044: The True Self Vs. the Fantasy Family

Podcast: Play in new window | Download(Kids Are Not Defective Part 2) Topic: After reflecting on the last show, I wanted to explore my family comments a bit more thoroughly. Why do adults jump so quickly to the defense of the authority figures in their lives? Why are so many people resistant to the idea that their childhoods were not exactly great? When and how will the effects of childhood mistreatment reveal themselves? Because they always do. To answer these questions, I briefly channel a "composite character" assembled from many of my past discussions about raising children. Bumper Music: "Hometown Glory" by Adele Look Closer: Freedomain Radio 211: Childhood Prisons http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_211_Childhood_Prisons.mp3 Complete Liberty Episode 31 - Authoritarianism and family, getting ...

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